How to Handle the Pain of Meeting Your Partner’s Mistress

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Meeting Your Husbands Mistress

The desire and expectation of every couple in every relationship are happiness and peace of mind. No one ever wants to experience the pain or fate of betrayal or rejection.  Each partner always looks forward to the contentment of the other person. At least within each of them, there is a sense of belonging towards the other person.

They both understand they are meant for each other until a third party comes along. Their expectation of a third party is non but the child or children the comes forth from the union. Aside from the children, any other third party is regarded simply as an intruder, or a conspirator. No matter where the intruder is coming from, either from the male partner or the female partner is certainly an unwanted story.

As a woman, the idea or thought of having to share your husband with another fellow woman is considered belligerent.  That’s never your desire. Although, this is the normal norm for a certain religious denomination where one man to only one woman is practiced.

Whereas the reverse is the case in some other religious denominations. If at all the woman of the house really wants the man of the house to have another woman then he had better get married to her than have her as his mistress. Having the unmarried woman as a mistress actually makes the man unfaithful and makes the mistress an impostor to the relationship.

Consider how it is when your man stands in an open place talking to another woman, someone you have never seen or meet before. How do you control the pain of seeing your partner hugging a woman not familiar to you? What do you feel? What do you start thinking? So many thoughts and funny ideas start forming up in your little mind. Feelings of uneasiness, edginess, pain, and resentment all begin to find their way in you.

The next thing your mind starts being suspicious. To some women, it brings about sleepless nights and disturbing days. This is just about being suspicious about your husband having a mistress.

So, what happens when a woman realizes, becomes fully assured that her partner is having a mistress? In this case, she already knows the truth about her man’s infidelity, but the issue is not having met the woman behind the mask.

Then what happens when you not only gain knowledge about your partner’s mistress but also meet your rival face-to-face? It’s painful, right? Yes, it is. But there are ways to handle the situation, pain, and agony. Again, it all depends where you meet your partner’s mistress.

Did you bump into her while she is going her way?

Did you happen to meet her in a shopping mall?  obviously, you both have come to buy some groceries.

Did you catch her red-handed with your spouse having some good time in an eatery nearby? This can be a very hot blow.

Did you meet her in your partner’s office, laughing heartily and feeling very relaxed with your spouse? This can be uncultured.

Lastly, did you meet her right inside your matrimonial home staring dark into your face? While your partner is standing or sitting beside her caressing her, with a romantic gesture. I think this is the height of it all.

Let’s take these situations one after the other and see how you can handle it

Did you bump into her while she is going her way?

By descriptive, by assumption, you seem to know who she is. But one thing very clear to you is that your spouse is having an affair. Not only that people are saying it to your face but you seem to have seen her face before, maybe somewhere. The difference here is that you haven’t got the opportunity of coming face-to-face with her.

Then suddenly on a very beautiful day while you were driving home from work you saw her equally going her way.

What crosses your mind?

It’s not the best and it won’t do you any good if you decide to stop and confront her there and then. Already the hatred is molded in you just at the very sight of her.

The best way to handle the situation is to drive past her. It’s alright if you stop for a while and gaze at her. It’s equally alright if you don’t give her a ride. But don’t confront her, just drive quietly away and nurse the pain.

Approaching her for interrogations might only make things worse. She can get hostile and attack you back. Remember she already knows you are her rival and the wife of the man she is dating. So, she is always prepared for any unwanted situation. Besides, you are not on the right side at that moment because she is going her way and you dint caught her with your spouse.

Did you happen to meet her in a shopping mall?  obviously, you both have come to buy some groceries.

Coming face-to-face with your rival in a shopping mall where you came to pick some articles for your domestic use can be distressing. watching her pick those items, with many thoughts flashing past your mind. You thought of who might have given her the money for the items she comes to pick.

You think of approaching her and asking her why she is behaving immaturely. You think of asking her why she chose to be a mistress to a married man and what gain she derives from it. You think of asking her to stop dating your partner and go find hers. All this you were thinking as you slowly pick your items and at the same time giving her a side glance.

That is the best you can do. You don’t need to approach her there, and you don’t need to ask her any questions neither do you need to approach her for clarifications. The right thing for you to do is quietly pick your items and leave the mall. Don’t try to cause a scene by confronting her Probably your partner must have told her about you.

Did you catch her red-handed with your spouse having some good time in an eatery somewhere? This can be a very hot blow.

Annie knows very well that her spouse is cheating on her, although, she knows also who his mistress is because she got a description of her from people. Ever since then she is monitoring her husband to catch them red-handed.

Then as if her prayers are answered, she caught her partner and his mistress having some time together in a bistro. Perhaps someone gives her that information otherwise she wouldn’t come to a drinking bar for anything. She approached them and almost pick a fight with the woman. She accuses her and calls her all sorts of names, demanding her to leave the scene and stop dating her spouse.

That is the case with most women when they happen to meet their partner’s mistress. What Annie did wasn’t right. The best thing to do in such a situation is simply to make your presence known by both of them. Let them know you are aware of them then go back home and wait for your partner.

Did you meet her in your partner’s office, laughing heartily and feeling very relaxed with your spouse? This can be uncultured.

Before this time, you have not only been suspecting it, but people have been telling you about your partner’s infidelity with another woman. You have talked to your partner about it and maybe he denied it. Then you suddenly bumped into both of them in his office.

Looking at both of them, you not only feel like accusing your spouse of infidelity but also feel like calling him a liar right in front of his mistress. For some women, they will instantly start a big fight, but that isn’t the best thing to do.

Yes, and indeed your partner will likely introduce you to his mistress as, “miss” whoever she is, but still won’t admit that she is his mistress. So, the best way you can handle it is to wait for your partner to come home for an explanation or you can even fight him directly while at home.

Lastly, did you meet her right inside your matrimonial home staring dark into your face? While your partner is standing or sitting beside her caressing her, with a romantic gesture. I think this is the height of it all.

At this point, you need to understand one thing, and that is. the knowledge that your partner is a full-grown adult that knows the right and the wrong thing to do. Judging his behavior at this point, it is simply infidelity at the highest order. For your partner to bring his mistress into your matrimonial home is very disrespectful and shameful indeed.

If you pick a fight with her, you are right, yes because it’s your home but she invaded as an intruder. But then, your husband might be against you, what if he joins forces with his mistress to fight you back.

So, should that make you a coward? No, you can’t take it and you don’t need to take it from both of them. You are right if you fight back and you are equally right if you file for a divorce.

Most importantly, what you need here is a mature mind. It is now two against one. Your husband and his mistress are against you, and that is the more reason why you should not pick a fight with them.

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